5 Crucial Reasons Why You Need To Start Focusing On Yourself
If there is one thing that I’ve learned on my journey, it’s that it’s incredibly important to focus on yourself and your goals and dreams at some point because I know what it’s like not to and believe me it’s not pretty.
Like I’m sure many of you are, I’m a full born people pleaser and love to see people happy. I love it. There is no better feeling than to see someone smile and feel loved!
Is there something wrong with that?
Of course not!
Nothing is wrong at all. As long as you know what you are in for.
Ask yourself, how often are you putting your needs last.
Your goals, your wellbeing, your life, always being the afterthought in your day.
For me. I always put my needs last and at the drop of a hat would upend my schedule to accommodate others in their lives.
Does that sound like you?
If so, don’t worry. It’s not a problem as long as you are aware and manage it.
You might have been raised to be nurturing or you are naturally giving and just want to help someone and make their life easier, beautiful.
But at what point do you take a stand and put yourself and your needs first for once.
For me, I waited too long. It wasn’t until I basically exploded and could no longer understand why I was feeling unfulfilled with my life. I was living in a hamster wheel day in and day out wondering when it was going to be my turn and my shot at happiness.
I understand that feeling of supporting others, building others up, living your life in service to others but I want to share with you 5 reasons why it’s also crucial to sometimes put your needs first so that you can also feel happy, fulfilled, energetic and be able to show up for others on a different level. One where you are living your life and are sticking with your goals and doing what you were born to do! Be happy, free and living in gratitude.
1. When you stop focusing on yourself it prevents you from accomplishing your goals.
Believe me, I know this all to well. While your intentions are beautiful to help other people Ie. Family, friends, colleagues, partners, etc.
This can really take a toll when you pour out too much of your cup and forget to refill it periodically.
Setting a daily schedule with yourself booked in to is important.
No one is going to do this for you. You have to do this.
Plan ahead and stay accountable to yourself.
Sometimes that requires waking up early in order to make this happen.
2. Focusing on yourself more helps you better understand your emotions and feelings.
This was a big wake up call to me.
I remember back in 2016 sitting at the Wellness Business Summit and my mentor was talking about discovering if you were an empath.
I had no idea what that meant when she was talking about it until she shared a slide of what empaths are and how they take on the emotions and feelings of other people.
This was a big game changer in my life. As I realized that not only was I super sensitive to the emotions of others I also had a superpower and I had no idea how to use it.
I feel other people, their energy, their pain and much more.
I realized that I was taking on a lot more than I realized and it wasn’t my own.
When you can give yourself time to understand you. YOU will be able to work with other people, friends, family, colleagues, and partners in a more fulfilling and empowering way.
3. When you focus on yourself you improve your relationships with those around you
When you start filling your cup up you tend to see vast improvement in your health, mindset, work and goals, whatever it is that’s important to you.
It’s amazing how you stand taller, walk more confidently and are more playful and happy.
People will see this and ask you, what you are doing because they will see this glow. (are you seeing a pattern here yet) it’s important and crucial to really sit back and give yourself this time that we don’t do anymore.
The more time we give to social media, Netflix, etc the more we feel lack, self sabotage and pain because we stop understanding and dealing with how we feel and why.
The quietest moments are the loudest moments. (read this again… the quietest moments are the loudest)
You just need to listen.
4. When you focus on yourself you find happiness which in turn gives you power and strength
For me I turned to the gym and hired a personal trainer for a year.
I went this route because I needed accountability and a schedule and wanted to lose weight.
I was still going through my people pleasing stage here. But I took imperfect action. I scheduled my workouts at 7-8am.
I wanted to show my coach that I could do this and not give up.
I wanted to be her best client of the day and then after we were done our session my day continued with that same energy.
I filled my cup up first every morning and I liked how I felt.
I started to lead with that energy and everyone started to see and feel a better side of me. A side that I was not familiar with but really liked.
Yes you read this. REST. When you focus on yourself this needs to involve REST.
I can not tell you how important it is for you to rest. I still struggle with this as I am a go getter.
I like to knock my to do list out of the park and show to myself that I conquered yet another day but that to do list will never end.
Working on the next days tasks, chores, errands, work, family and friend obligations, functions, parties, social gatherings, network evening, luncheons, client meetings, work meetings, working on your business or in your business will NEVER stop.
No matter how much you jam into your day.
You will always always live in what I call the personal chaos cycle until you learn how to prioritize a schedule that works best for you instead letting your schedule run you.
It is SUPER UBER important to write yourself in to your schedule.
How are you supposed to be your best and feel your best if you are constantly overbooking yourself and spreading yourself thin?
It’s impossible and I have yet to figure out how to be that superwoman. She does eventually burn out.
What else can I do?
By focusing on you, even for one weekend not only are you going to feel amazing, strong, powerful, fulfilled, happy, relaxed and have flow in your life. You are going to feel less stressed, anxiety, depressed, frustrated and resentful.
I am extremely passionate when it comes to this subject and is why I created the WANDERLUST Retreat.
The Wanderlust Retreat is a vacation for women who want to learn strategies to put themselves first. To give them time to work on themselves. To relax and learn to understand their own needs around work, life, health and family.
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